CompassPoint staff member Amy Benson is leading monthly practice groups in January, February, and March 2013 where participants can learn more about and raise the quality of their interpersonal communication. If you’ve had the chance to work with Amy, you know she’s the perfect facilitator for these sessions.
Vulnerability – eek! I know I try to hide mine.
If I’m hurt that a friend cancels on me at the last minute, I might smile and say, “Oh, it’s no big deal, I have a lot of other things I need to do tonight too.” If I’m worried that a colleague may not deliver the materials I need on time, I may send an email saying, “You MUST submit your materials by noon on Friday.” Whether I’m hiding my hurt feelings or my inability to control other people’s actions, I’m doing it to protect myself. I’m hiding the parts of my life where I feel weak, with the hopes that others won’t find those weak spots and exploit them. Sometimes I even hide them from myself, so that I won’t have to feel the incredible vulnerability of being alive and human.